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All Hers

Kitty's New Blanket

Kitty claimed the David Fussenegger laptop cover as her new bed. I don’t blame her. All of their products—pillowcases, blankets, robes—are ridiculously soft. Today, I got her a blanket. So far, she seems to be enjoying it, and I can reclaim the laptop cover for its original use.

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Eliza Bennet, My Childhood Hero

Elizabeth felt herself growing more angry every moment; yet she tried to the utmost to speak with composure when she said,

“You are most mistaken, Mr. Darcy, if you suppose that the mode of your declaration affected me in any other way, than as it spared me the concern which I might have felt in refusing you, had you behaved in a more gentlemanlike manner.”

She saw him start at this, but he said nothing, and she continued,

“You could not have made the offer of your hand in any possible way that would have tempted me to accept it.”

Again his astonishment was obvious; and he looked at her with an expression of mingled incredulity and mortification. She went on.

“From the very beginning, from the first moment I may almost say, of my acquaintance with you, you manners impressing me with the fullest belief of your arrogance, your conceit, and your selfish disdain of the feelings of others, were such as to form the ground-work of disapprobation, on which succeeding events have built a immoveable a dislike; and I had not known you a month before I felt that you were the last man in the world whom I could ever be prevailed on to marry.”

– Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice

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Édith Piaf, I Love Thee

Je ne regrette rien

(via Fuck Yeah, Tattoos)

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Fashion And Charity

What are you doing this weekend?

I’m going to be speaking at a conference, but if you’re free and in southern California, go to the NOVO Fashion Show this Saturday. The show is put together by aspiring fashion designers, makeup artists, photographers, and volunteers to promote social awareness. Runway fashions are made from donated clothes and then given to charities after the show.

Donations will go to Working Wardrobe, Helping Hands, and Caring Hearts, Inc. Information booths will be open for those interested in community volunteer opportunities. There will also be a hip-hop performance and (non-alcoholic) refreshments.

My cousin is one of the designers for the event! She has been working so hard these past few weeks. The preview for her line HOTMESS is up to see.

NOVO Fashion Show
Saturday, April 25, 2009
6:00pm – 8:00pm
Doors open at 5:30pm

Vineyard of Harvest Church
21167 Commerce Pointe Dr.
Walnut, CA

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A Thousand Words

I Hate You But Not Really

This explains us better than anything I could say. This is the secret I was afraid to tell.

(via it’s a bird with a bomb!)

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Classroom: Life

Booklist - Abuse and Healing (and Anxiety)

This is my outside class reading list.  I’ve been triggered recently by several events in my personal life, and decided that it was time to tackle the resurrecting skeletons. Some of these books are more for people who are in abusive relationships while others are for those recovering, but both genres have been very illuminating when it comes to why he did it and validating when it comes to why I stayed.

But I already regret getting The Woman’s Comfort Book. It was highly recommended on Amazon, but I find the suggestions uninspiring. Take a scented bath? Indulge in brownies? Look in the mirror and tell your reflection that you accept your body? If I wanted those types of suggestions, I would have gotten an issue of Cosmo instead.

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On Love Stories

When it comes to love, there are a million theories to explain it. But when it comes to love stories, things are simpler. A love story can never be about full possession. The happy marriage, the requited love, the desire that never dimes—these are lucky eventualities but they aren’t love stories. Love stories depend on disappointment, on unequal births and feuding families, matrimonial boredom and at least one cold heart. Love stories, nearly without exception, give love a bad name.

We value love not because it’s stronger than death but because it’s weaker. Say what you want about love: death with finish it. You will not go on loving in the grave, not in any physical way that will at all resemble love as we know it on earth. The perishable nature of love is what gives love its profound importance in our lives. If it were endless, if it were on tap, love wouldn’t hit us the way it does.

– Jeffrey Eugenides, My Mistress’s Sparrow is Dead

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What Sex-Positivity Does For Feminism

I think that the reason that sex-positivity is important for feminism is that sex-positivity is about making room for the range of sexualities that exist among human beings. It’s about honoring the diversity of experience and ensuring that we each have the space to be the sexual beings that we are, without submitting our desires to a socially-constructed role. It’s about honoring each of our personal experiences and not trying to force someone into a particular image.

Sex-positivity is important for feminism because it invites feminism to make space for our entire experiences as sexual, human beings. If you can’t do that, then you risk falling into the trap of trying to fit people in a different box. It may seem different simply because it’s new, but it’s just as limiting as the box you just left.

– Dr. Charlie Glickman, “Why Sex-Positivity is Good for Feminism”

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Young Dirty Minds

  • BT: Beta sheets are a single polypeptide chains that wrap around laterally in a kinky fashion.
  • Class: *laughs*
  • BT: Genetics is exciting on all different levels.
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Genetics Humor

  • BT: We can talk about class material however we’d like. I’m not too particular about the sequence. But changing it up would make it a polymorphism.
  • Class: *groan*
  • BT: Now which do you think is worse? The fact that I made the joke or the fact that you understood it?
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