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People Of Change

People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.

A soul mate’s purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master…

– Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love

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Hang Around Enough Of ‘Em

More from The Sword (but this time, on drugs):

The Sword #13, p.8

Musicians and thespians tend to have extensive knowledge on the topic, too.

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You And Your Acquired Disability

I’ve been reading The Sword, a comic series about a paraplegic who found a powerful sword and the three siblings who would do anything to reclaim it. The creators, the Luna Brothers, write realistic characters with intriguing storylines. I loved their two previous works, Ultra and Girls, so I felt compelled to read this new title.

The main character Dara acquired paraplegia after a car accident. She was cured very early on in the title, when she found the sword, but the event reads less like the desire for an abled title character and more like the revelation of the sword’s special abilities. The Luna Brothers do show Dara’s struggle with paraplegia in flashbacks. As I read about her past, I see that her present strength grew from her courage to confront her difficulties.

In these pages, Dara realizes the reality of her situation. When reading, I found this very moving. This is what it was like for me after my car accident. This is reality.

The Sword #8, p.17 The Sword #8, p.18 The Sword #8, p.19
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Ethnic Makeup

Young man asks attractive young woman about her ethnic makeup and gets schooled in race and gender. Learn more about the film at the Media That Matters Film Festival.

Transcript under the cut.

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Eliza Bennet, My Childhood Hero

Elizabeth felt herself growing more angry every moment; yet she tried to the utmost to speak with composure when she said,

“You are most mistaken, Mr. Darcy, if you suppose that the mode of your declaration affected me in any other way, than as it spared me the concern which I might have felt in refusing you, had you behaved in a more gentlemanlike manner.”

She saw him start at this, but he said nothing, and she continued,

“You could not have made the offer of your hand in any possible way that would have tempted me to accept it.”

Again his astonishment was obvious; and he looked at her with an expression of mingled incredulity and mortification. She went on.

“From the very beginning, from the first moment I may almost say, of my acquaintance with you, you manners impressing me with the fullest belief of your arrogance, your conceit, and your selfish disdain of the feelings of others, were such as to form the ground-work of disapprobation, on which succeeding events have built a immoveable a dislike; and I had not known you a month before I felt that you were the last man in the world whom I could ever be prevailed on to marry.”

– Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice

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Classroom: Life

Booklist - Abuse and Healing (and Anxiety)

This is my outside class reading list.  I’ve been triggered recently by several events in my personal life, and decided that it was time to tackle the resurrecting skeletons. Some of these books are more for people who are in abusive relationships while others are for those recovering, but both genres have been very illuminating when it comes to why he did it and validating when it comes to why I stayed.

But I already regret getting The Woman’s Comfort Book. It was highly recommended on Amazon, but I find the suggestions uninspiring. Take a scented bath? Indulge in brownies? Look in the mirror and tell your reflection that you accept your body? If I wanted those types of suggestions, I would have gotten an issue of Cosmo instead.

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On Love Stories

When it comes to love, there are a million theories to explain it. But when it comes to love stories, things are simpler. A love story can never be about full possession. The happy marriage, the requited love, the desire that never dimes—these are lucky eventualities but they aren’t love stories. Love stories depend on disappointment, on unequal births and feuding families, matrimonial boredom and at least one cold heart. Love stories, nearly without exception, give love a bad name.

We value love not because it’s stronger than death but because it’s weaker. Say what you want about love: death with finish it. You will not go on loving in the grave, not in any physical way that will at all resemble love as we know it on earth. The perishable nature of love is what gives love its profound importance in our lives. If it were endless, if it were on tap, love wouldn’t hit us the way it does.

– Jeffrey Eugenides, My Mistress’s Sparrow is Dead

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