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But I Never Thought of Love as Risk Either

When it comes to falling in love there are, I think, two kinds of people. The first one who has a well-laid plan by which they seek a partner that possesses certain preferred qualities and characteristics. Upon finding such a person, they pursue a cautious and measured courtship, waiting for signs of reassurance before giving in to feelings of attachment, never taking too much risk, slowly and incrementally revealing more about themselves, until a respectable time has passed and a sense of comfort has been attained, before ever coming near uttering those three powerful words, “I love you.”

The second kind has no such plan or patience for caution. They will think nothing of the risk being taken when investing in someone, nor will they bother to proceed carefully, but will choose instead to reveal everything about themselves to whomever wishes to know them. These are the people who believe in serendipity, who trust their feelings and are led by their heart, who are on a relentless quest to find, earn, and keep love in their lives. These are the people who do not tiptoe into love, but instead know only to dive in, head first, with abandon.

- Why I Love You by Gregory E. Lang

Why are there two types of people—the careful and the carefree? Isn’t there a third? Or even many more? By being too cautious, you will always miss opportunities. By being too careless, you will always make mistakes. Why can’t you be a little bit of both?

There is always a courtship, when you get to know each other to see if you’re compatible. After some experience, you can create a list of traits that work (or not) with you. With more experience, you can more easily detect those traits in other people. Once you find someone who is compatible, you can then (or not) throw caution to the wind, stay over every night, and take showers together in the morning.

There have been times when I’ve been cautious, venturing carefully into love. There have been other times when I dove in and haven’t looked back.

But I prefer the abandon. It’s so much less work, and—frankly—so much more freeing.

(via Weenie’s World, The Chicktionary)

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i carry your heart with me

In celebration of National Poetry Month, I will share a poem that I love every day. Enjoy.

i carry your heart with me(i carry it in
my heart)i am never without it(anywhere
i go you go,my dear;and whatever is done
by only me is your doing,my darling)
i fear
no fate(for you are my fate,my sweet)i want
no world(for beautiful you are my world,my true)
and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you

here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows
higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart

i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)

– e e cummings


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